Out With Dad, episode 3.17 is
called Out With PFLAG part III. If
you’re wondering how that title follows the previous episode, you are
forgetting that part I and II of PFLAG occurred last season when Rose and
Nathan attended their first PFLAG meetings. It was the first episode of OWD I
wrote a real review of, which you can read here.
This is very long episode, coming
in at over 20 minutes including credits.
But with so much happening this time, it certainly doesn’t seem
long! This episode begins with Rose and
Nathan entering and greeting Claire and her Mom. This is a good nod to the first PFLAG
episode, where Rose is surprised to see “the girl from the washroom”. But there is a surprise attendee, and it’s Alicia,
coming along to learn what she can do to be a “straight ally” to her friends
who identify otherwise. I can relate to
her feelings, but more on this later.
After the girls greet each other,
the meat of the story begins as new leader Robin initiates the sharing with the
story of his cousin. Said cousin was
excommunicated by his family after coming out, even when he was dying of
cancer. This story reminds me a little
too much of Vanessa’s family. Not only
because of their unacceptance of Vanessa’s sexuality, but of the way they
abandoned their eldest son when he married outside of his faith. I can’t
imagine anything short of a major crime would make me cut off communication
with one of my children. Robin also comments on how attending the sharing meetings,
listening and sharing, makes him feel better about things.
Morgan comes next. I have a small problem with the presentation
of Morgan’s story, and it has everything to do with continuity. Morgan implies that he was quiet and looked
very bad during the last meeting. By
this, he is referring to PFLAG meeting from last season. But that would, in OWD time have been months
ago (last school year). Therefore,
either this is a stretch by Jason to help us remember Morgan, or PFLAG only
meets every few months. Which I guess is
possible. It just seems unlikely. Anyway, that’s way too much time to discuss
such a trivial matter that doesn’t affect the plot at all. Morgan identifies himself as trans and tells
of begin raped and beaten by a bunch of drunk guys. It’s a horrible story, and difficult to
listen to. But it’s well written and
Sam’s tale of literally being in
the closet is much lighter than Morgan’s but also rather tragic. Though no physical harm was done to her,
having to hide her true self from her girlfriend’s family has left her with
some mental problems. What if Vanessa
had chosen to sneak around with Rose while hiding the relationship from her
family? I don’t think Rose could have
handled such an arrangement. I also
think this type of relationship is rather common, and I have heard first-person
accounts of such.
Alicia speaks next, and sound
just like I would if I were to go to a PFLAG meeting, I think. Though I try to be an ally of the LGBT
community in my words and deeds, I’m sure I would be at a loss for words in a
meeting centering on the experiences of people who are not straight.
Claire mostly recaps recent
events at school as well as expressing how nice it is to share such things with
people who will listen and support her.
This is the first that Rose hears of being banned from the changing
room, however. Rose continues this discussion of the difference between how
non-heterosexual students are treated at school-especially Catholic School-
compared to the friendly atmosphere of the sharing meeting.
Claire’s mom discusses learning
about her daughter and how she isn’t allowing her husband to wreck things, even
if he isn’t as receptive as she is. This
is eerily different from Vanessa’s father going along with his wife, when he
seems more open to wanting to be supportive.
Nathan discusses the unfairness of how Rose and Claire are treated
compared with the other students. This
is important. I think it’s important,
for instance, to speak not of “gay marriage” but of “marriage equality”. Because that’s what it’s really about,
right? Everyone should be treated
fairly, no matter what. It sounds like Ontario,
Canada is ahead of the USA in making sure people are treated equally, even in a
religious institution. Religion has
repeatedly been an excuse for bigotry here in the United States, including in
my state, which isn’t even close to the south.
Heck, I’m just a boat ride from Canadian soil! Anyway, this discussion of the school and
changing room will lead us into next episode.
By the way, Rose referred to
herself as a lesbian! Good for her! The “L” word was one of the most interesting
parts in the “lost episode” I got to transform into a comic. Though the whole comic is up on the web, I
thought I’d quickly mention I’m starting to post some extra art and pages on
the comic fury site.
This week I look at episode 3.16 of Out
With Dad, my favorite webseries if which I’ve discussed here in depth a lot
in previous posts. “Stressing Out” involves mostly Rose’s school. This episode
hits me rather hard because I am a teacher in real life, though I work in a
public school that is not subject to some of the prejudices as Rose’s school
environment. Granted, some of the views
in this story do crop up in all schools, but not in the particular area where I
The episode begins with a
conversation between Rose and her dad. He
knows something is bothering her and tries to figure out what. Rise attempts to skirt the issues, but
reveals a bit too much in the process.
The first thing Rose talks about is the dance tickets Claire tried to
buy for them. Rose insists things
between her and Claire are fine, though the attempt to buy the tickets does
bring up a thought to me. Rose and
Claire make such a nice couple, in part, because of how the complement each
other. Claire is more vocal and out,
while Rose is quiet and shy. However,
this has caused some friction already, and could signal trouble in the long
term. It depends on how much Rose can
come out of her shell.
Anyway, Nathan wants desperately
to help Rose, but she doesn’t want to be the center of attention at school, so
she’d rather put up with the discrimination hoping people will eventually
forget about it. At school, we find Rose
is afraid to enter the changing room before gym, and would rather be late for
class than face the homophobia of Brittney.
Then Nathan gets THE PHONE
CALL. The gym teacher is calling
concerning parents not wanting their daughters changing in front of Rose. The teacher’s idiotic solution is for her to
use the staff change room. Nathan is
understandably incensed. The solution
hits me this way: in order to have equal access to the education of heterosexuals,
it is necessary to have homosexuals separated.
You know, because separate but equal works so well. Nathan demands
action, but wants to keep things from Rose.
Certainly so as not to upset her and so that she won’t be getting the
extra attention she doesn’t want.
The final scene includes the
wonderful return of Alicia. Okay, she
hasn’t really been gone, but she hasn’t done much this season…so far. But I like the interaction between her and
Rose. Rose had mentioned in a video
diary that she thought Alicia was a bit stuck up and kept Rose from spending
time with Kenny. At first, Rose seems
rather cold towards Alicia here, but when Alicia asks about Vanessa and offers
to put up posters about her, Rose sees to thaw. Then, when Claire arrives and
the Fall Formal comes up in conversation, Alicia offers to boycott as a sign of
solidarity. Finally, Alicia asks about
PFLAG. She really is quite a sweet girl,
By the way, Rose tries to get
Claire to go to the dance without her, but Claire will have none of it. Kenny is all for skipping the dance
also. These people really care about
Rose, but I don’t think she’s reacting well. In fact, Alicia, Kenny, Claire,
and Nathan all seem to have the right ideas throughout the episode. Rose,
however, has not responded to her difficulties well. Ignoring a problem and hoping it will go
away, plus refusing the help of others?
Not very good, Rose. I know it
may be hard to be in the spotlight, but I think you have to do better. Would you want the next girl to come out to
be treated like you have been?
Finally, the episode ends with
Claire giving Alicia her MOST ADORABLE LOOK YET! I love this show!
I’m going to talk about the
final third of the third season of my favorite webseries, Out With Dad. I’ve been viewing and re-viewing the
episodes, so I guess it’s time I review them. First, I think I’ll make some
general comments about the series. I really do think season 3 is the best Out
With Dad yet. I say “yet” because I
really hope there will be more. Mostly because I really love these characters,
and I just hate sating “goodbye” to them.
But also, Out With dad isn’t just about these great characters, but how
they deal with issues that beset people who are LGBT and their families and
friends. The situations challenge the
characters and make the viewers care about them.
Season 3.3 begins with episode
3.15, “Vanessa’s Calm”, in which Vanessa and her brother Matthew discuss her
problems over a breakfast of dry “crap” cereal.
Vanessa explains what has happened between her and Rose, and is shocked
at how well her brother handles the news.
She speaks of her envy for Rose, because Rose has support from her dad
despite being out, while Vanessa gets no support at home despite having 2
parents plus. The most interesting point in the conversation for me is Vanessa
talking about Johnny. She states how Johnny being openly gay always made her
feel uncomfortable. I guess this
shouldn’t surprise me so, knowing the views Vanessa’s parents have and that
she’s certainly been taught that since she was small, but seeing Vanessa being
such a victim lately, I haven’t thought about her prejudices.
Speaking of prejudices,
Matthew is introduced to the idea that gay people can be Bi-Phobic, which is
one of those things Out With Dad has brought to my attention that I never thought
of before. The episode winds down with
the setup for Vanessa to meet Sera, a character from another webseries with an
I’ll discuss that episode
later, but I’m going to get back to Rose’s story next.